I speak at college and present "Hands-On Leadership" training. Also I present to many young leaders on the topic of "Emergent Leadership". I am surprised by the view of leaders sitting and golfing all day. Many students and Gen-Y leaders feel that having enemies is not the way of leadership. The challenge is that as a leader people are not going to like you.
I recall one of my earliest leadership experiences (as a young professional) I was placed as a team leader of a bunch of 40+ year old men. I was in my early 20's and suddenly I was in charge of 10 team members all at least 20 years my senior. Our first meeting was horrible - they just shot dirty looks and did not listen to anything I said. I was trying to be there friend and was not taking a solid stance.
Once I made the decision to stand strong on a topic and engage a challenging team member (who no one really liked) I felt the wind shift. Once I made an enemy the team rallied. Eventually the team member I challenged spoke to me in my office and apologized for his behavior.
Leaders create enemies and people will not like you for reasons you are unaware of. This is a challenge of leadership.
clipped from http://www.fastcompany.com/blog/douglas-paul/dig-deeper-reach-higher-be-great/just-fine-being-bad-guy
Michael Cardus serves as an Adventure Consultant for Create-Learning Team Building. Mike facilitates, trains, and speaks to groups in a variety of settings including Fortune 500 Companies, small business, universities and classrooms. Currently he lives in Buffalo NY, he travels to serve your groups needs - where and when your group desires.